The answer is “no,” but it requires a process of teaching just that in order to learn it so that you demonstrate it in all of your interactions. ACIM states it this way in response to the question in the title of this blog: When you are angry, is it not because someone has failed to fill the function you allotted him? And does not this become the ‘reason’ your attack is justified?
What does this mean? The Course reminds us continuously that the ego always speaks first in all situations that hurt us, and that: Those whom you perceive as opponents are part of your peace, which you are giving up by attacking them. This does not imply you must accept bad behavior from anyone, even if you must walk away from the encounter in order to feel safe. You can then give yourself time to return to a more peaceful state before making any further attempts for resolution, if you are guided to do so. According to ACIM, the only purpose of time is for us to choose the miracle of changing our perception from fear to love. A peaceful mind begets a peaceful solution. Out of that holy place in our mind we will surely recognize that grief will ultimately attend attack in any form, and that choosing peace instead of turmoil is our only desire. Again, in order for you to have peace, you must teach peace to learn it. Otherwise, attack will always hurt you and no compromise is possible.
Is there any end to this teaching/learning/having thing? Of course, and we do not have to die to do it. It sometimes seems unmanageable, but that is only when we are choosing to listen to the voice for the ego instead of the Voice for God, and are welcoming the distraction. I believe the following quote from ACIM will be truly helpful in recognizing how we are asked to think to regain peace: Everyone here has entered darkness, yet no one has entered it alone. For he has come with Heaven’s Help within him, ready to lead him out of darkness into light at any time. The time he chooses can be any time, for help is there, awaiting but his choice. And when he chooses to avail himself of what is given him, then will he see each situation that he thought before was means to justify his anger turned to an event which justifies his love…He will perceive that where he gave attack is but another altar where he can, with equal ease and far more happiness, bestow forgiveness. And he will reinterpret all temptation as just another chance to bring him joy.